Carol Jean McClendon Grote    (1940-2017)


Carol Jean McClendon Grote of Oak Grove, MO, peacefully left this world on Saturday, Dec. 2, 2017, surrounded by her family. She was 77 years old.  

She came into this life on January 26, 1940, born to loving parents Richard and Helen B. Ashe McClendon and raised in Lee’s Summit, MO, with her siblings Betty A. McCauley and Richard L. McClendon.  

Carol’s professional life included work for Western Electric, The Dental Office of Dr. Childers and as Administrator of First Baptist Church of Oak Grove. It was at First Baptist Church that she developed a pioneering program for church members who were single from divorce. Through this effort she met the final love of her life Philip M. Grote, whom she married in 1982.  It was Philip’s role as Carol’s primary caregiver that allowed her wish to remain at home during the final years of her life to be fulfilled.  Carol was involved in virtually every committee possible in her church, including being the Director of Women on Mission.  Her job at First Baptist Church was never a job to Carol, but rather her service to God and her church family. 

Carol is survived by her husband and devoted partner in life for 35 years Philip Grote, brother Richard (Sheila) McClendon, sister Betty McCauley, daughter Kelly (Randy) Akers, daughter Julie Cain-Passmore (Jeremy Passmore), son Marcus Cain (Tony Glamcevski), step-son Brandon (Kimberly) Grote, step-daughter Gretchen Grote, second-husband Donald Cain (Mary Lou Cain), 12 grandchildren, 4 great-grandchildren, and 4 nephews and their families. 

Carol is preceded in death by her parents, first-husband Gary Rickerson and (still-born) granddaughter Baby Girl Akers. 

Services will be held on Sat., Dec. 9 at First Baptist Church of Oak Grove, MO, 400 SE 14th St., Oak Grove, MO 64075; Visitation is 11:00 a.m. - 1:00 p.m.; Funeral at 1:00 p.m.  

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made in Carol’s name to the following: KU Endowment – Alzheimer Research, 3901 Rainbow Blvd., MS 3012, Kansas City, KS 66160 or online at; First Baptist Church of Oak Grove, 400 SE 14th St., Oak Grove, MO 64075 or for online donations, go to and click on “give”; and The Oak Grove Historical Society, PO Box 942, Oak Grove, MO 64075. 

Carol’s family would like to extend their loving gratitude to Philip Grote for his steadfast devotion and care throughout the progression of Carol’s illness.  

Carol is finally at rest, and we hold her close within us. Please hold her close, as we do, in your mind and your spirit, and remember the meaning of her life.  She represented the extraordinary beauty of the human heart and the true meaning of kindness and grace.    


Arrangements:  Royer Funeral Home, Oak Grove, MO   816-690-4441


Marcus - My dear friend, your mother loved you so very much. She was kind, gentle and beautiful. I am sorry to hear of her passing. I love you. I hope you are able to take all the time you need to grieve her passing. May your heart heal with the loving light of her life and the memories that made her so very special. My deepest sympathy.  -  Julie Malone

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